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Sunday, December 16, 2012

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“The Chinese use two brush strokes to write the word 'crisis.' One brush stroke stands for danger; the other for opportunity. In a crisis, be aware of the danger—but recognize the opportunity.” –John F. Kennedy
                                                                                                                                                                            
We are facing any number of crises, both nationally and globally.

First and foremost in our minds today is the national crisis of violence in our schools.  Blame has been placed on everything from gun control to video games.  We've attributed it to lack of faith and loss of family. It seems likely that a variety of conditions have lead to the creation of this perfect societal storm.

On the global front, we are experiencing economic crises, food crises, environmental crises, and energy crises.  What in the world is happening?

Perhaps we are poised for an epic epiphany: one single defining moment when we gain the courage to do things differently. We are doing a lot of talking, and that’s a good start, because there is danger in this type of silence that implies consent.

Thomas Edison said, “Opportunity is missed by most people because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work.” It’s time for a new world order to restore order to our world, one where kindness and compassion exist and thrive under the Golden Rule.

Do you hear that?  It’s a Golden Opportunity knocking.

Many hands make light work,

Gina J

Sunday, December 9, 2012

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“Forgive others not because they deserve forgiveness, but because you deserve peace.” –Jonathan Lockwood Huie


If you’re holding a grudge, it’s time to put it down.

We construct our own prison of poison when we refuse to forgive. We build the walls with anger, resentment, and hatred, and then commit ourselves to a sentence of solitary confinement with nothing but toxic thoughts to keep us company.

The act of forgiveness frees us from the detrimental effects of hostility and vengeance.  Just by breaking out of this self-made cell of spite, we escape the physical perils of higher blood pressure, elevated symptoms of anxiety, depression, and stress, and increased incidence of alcohol and substance abuse.  Is it worth it to suffer life-threatening symptoms while the person you’re angry with goes scot-free?

Pardoning our perceived persecutors promotes personal peace.  Say that three times fast.  Better yet, do it!

Build bridges,

Gina
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Sunday, December 2, 2012

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"Most people fail in life not because they aim too high and miss, but because they aim too low and hit."                -Les Brown

Do you believe that you can predict the future? 

The self-fulfilling prophecy is a statement that we tell ourselves that can be either positive or negative.  It can be so powerful that it actually alters our actions, thereby predicting the future for us. 

Your words have tremendous power to create or destroy.  Something as socially acceptable as telling yourself that you hate Mondays can taint your perception of the events of those particular days of the week.  It can be far more pervasive and harmful, however.  If you repeatedly fill your mind with self-imposed limitations, you will live down to your own expectations. 

Success comes in cans, not in can’ts. Listen carefully to the conversations that you have with yourself.  Untie the ‘nots’ in your life—I’m not young enough, not old enough, not smart enough, or good enough. Embrace the possibilities by opening some cans—I can do this.  I can succeed.  I can make a difference.

Raise the roof!  It’s high time to raise the bar.   No one profits from being a Prophet of Doom—bar none.  Stay on target.  Set your sights on a bright future.   

Ready?  Aim.  Fire!

Gina J  

Sunday, November 25, 2012

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"The first time someone shows you who they are, believe them."

                                                                   -Maya Angelou

Just for a moment, think of one thing that you would like to change about yourself. 

Maybe you’d like to be more patient, or less of a human doormat.  Would you like to be more organized, or less of a neat freak?  Perhaps you’re trying to lose weight, stick to an exercise program, quit smoking, or even give up chocolate.  Now imagine that someone insists that you change.   

When you stop to consider how difficult it is to change your own habits or idiosyncrasies, you’ll quickly abandon the prospect of trying to change someone else.  Most of us don’t respond well to force, threats, or ultimatums.    

You are not obligated to change anyone.  It just can’t be done. You can, however, change your responses to people who push your buttons.  This may be as simple as knowing when to change the subject.  Or it could be as complicated as recognizing when it is healthier for you to love someone from a distance.

If someone’s true colors are showing and they’re just not palatable to you, don’t tell yourself white lies about what you’re seeing.  Who deserves your honesty more than you?   

Seeing is believing,

Gina J

Sunday, November 18, 2012

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" We make a living by what we get; we make a life by what we give." -Sir Winston Churchill 

Lest we not forget, Thanksgiving is not only a holiday, it is also a verb.  How best to be thankful for our blessings?  The answer is right in the word itself: by giving.

In these tough economic times, we may wonder exactly what it is that we can afford to give.  There is one gift that only you can give—and that is the present of your presence.  And though it will cost you nothing, the return on your investment will be astounding.

Where to start?  Give the gift of a smile, a hug, or kind words.  Give the gift of your time.  Lend a hand or a listening ear, without expecting either to return.  Hold out an olive branch.  Hold a hand.  Hold your tongue.  Share a laugh.  Share a meal.  Share in someone’s joy or sorrow.

Kindness knows no enemy.  Invite it to the dinner table this Thanksgiving as your saving grace.  Renew the invitation daily.    

Get a life.  Give.

Gina J

PS: Happy Thanksgiving!

Monday, November 12, 2012

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"Never in the field of human conflict was so much owed by so many."–Winston Churchill

Calling all free agents and free spirits: it’s time to celebrate Veteran’s Day!

There are approximately 21.5 million military veterans living in the United States.  These heroes and she-roes served in World War II, the Korean War, the Vietnam War, the Gulf Wars, and the Afghanistan War.  Just as importantly, many of them served during peace time, keeping our country safe.

There are currently about 314 million citizens of the United States.  This means that less than seven percent of our men and women are responsible for protecting the freedoms that many of us take for granted.

Remember those precious few who have defended and continue to defend your rights to the Big Three: Life, Liberty, and the pursuit of Happiness. When you also consider the freedoms of speech, press, and religion, the rights to vote and bear arms—and don’t forget the right to equality—saying ‘thank you’ hardly seems like enough.    

I think we’re going to need a bigger parade!

Gina J



Sunday, November 4, 2012

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“Democracy is the only system that persists in asking the powers that be whether they are the powers that ought to be.” –Sydney Harris

Election Day is almost here.  After months of being interrupted during dinner by computer-assisted telephone calls, it’s finally time to go to the polls.

If you are one of the 35% of Americans who choose not to exercise your right to vote, take a moment to ponder these peculiar points.  It was estimated that 66 million people watched the debates between President Obama and Mitt Romney in October.  
However, this year on the lowest rated ever season of American Idol, 132 million votes were cast in the grand finale.

Johann Wolfgang von Goethe said, “Things which matter most must never be at the mercy of things which matter least.”  While it certainly is nice for the talented Phillip Phillips to skyrocket to number one on America’s Top 40, the fate of our country surely trumps his musical career.

Stand up and be counted as one of the lucky citizens of the Land of the Free and the Home of the Brave.  Face the music.  Vote.

Make this place your ‘Home’,

Gina J

Sunday, October 28, 2012

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“Nothing changes until something moves.” –Albert Einstein

We all know that Einstein knew his way around the universe.  So if you’re feeling a little stuck and world-weary, maybe Albert’s words of wisdom will help the earth move for you.

Often times it’s easier to complain about our circumstances than to make a move.  We get stuck on Life’s Waiting List: waiting for a sign, waiting for the timing to be right, waiting for things to be perfect—always waiting—afraid to make a false move.  But as W. L. Bateman once said, “If you keep on doing what you've always done, you'll keep
on getting what you've always got.”

Get your name off the waiting list and on to the ‘To-do’ list.  If it’s time to move on, move up, or move out, make your move.  You already know what to expect if you do nothing: more time in Life’s Waiting Room with an old magazine.

Good things may eventually come to those who wait, but come faster to those who take action.  It’s time to move some proverbial mountains, one shovel full at a time. Can you dig it? 

Bust a move,

Gina J

Sunday, October 21, 2012

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"You only get to be a victim once. After that, you're a volunteer." - Naomi Judd 


It’s time for a check-up from the neck up.  Let’s drop in and see what condition your condition is in.  Do you have your mind set on playing the victim on the stage of life?  Maybe it’s time to audition for a new role.

When we refuse to accept personal responsibility for our lives, we relinquish our power to change the very circumstances that imprison us.  And once we succumb to the victim mentality in any area, whether at work or in a relationship, we begin to identify with that title. 

Are you suffering from Poor Me Syndrome (aka PMS)?  Then it’s time to reclaim control of your life.  Nobody wants PMS.  If you’re placing someone else’s opinions above your own, begin to listen to your own instincts and gut feelings.  Put some boundaries in place.  Make some decisions.  Stamp the seal of approval on yourself. 

Going from victim to victor is only a few steps away.  Start by changing the setting of your mindset. Victim or volunteer…

Volunteering doesn’t pay,

Gina :-) 

Monday, October 15, 2012

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“Life is not about how fast you run or how high you climb, but how well you bounce.” –Vivian Komori

If life is indeed a game, are you taking care of the ball?  Do the daily stressors of life have you bouncing off the wall or are you on a roll?

It’s human nature to want to be bigger, better, and faster—yet even the fastest runner can fall and fail to get up. But those who bounce right back when they’re down have learned that true success is determined by perseverance. When Thomas Edison was asked about his many failures in inventing the light bulb, he replied, “I have not failed.  I have just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”

So if you’ve dropped the ball in some area of your life, whether it’s your job, relationship, or that New Year’s Resolution to get in shape, don’t hang your head in shame and retire to the bench. Life is not a spectator sport.  Participate.

Learn to roll with the punches.  Bounce starts with a ‘Be’—so, let it. It’s time to get back in the game.

The ball’s in your court,
Gina J

Monday, October 8, 2012

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“The Wright brothers flew right through the smoke screen of impossibility.”
-Charles Kettering

Impossibility.  Just add an apostrophe and stroke of the space bar and presto change-o—it immediately becomes I’m possibility!

If impossible means unimaginable, then most of us who were using things like dictionaries and encyclopedias in the early 1990s would have called Google impossible.  In fact, it would have been inconceivable to google something at that time, since most of the world didn’t even have the internet yet!  Consider other technologies that we now take for granted, like cell phones and email, which once would have sounded like science fiction.

Unthinkable? Unrealistic? Unbelievable? Maybe it’s time to undo the ‘uns’in your life. What limiting beliefs are holding you back from a world full of impossibilities just waiting to happen?  

Take a step in the Wright direction. Let your dreams take flight. Mission: possible!

The sky’s the limit,

Gina J

Monday, October 1, 2012

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“Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.” -Anonymous

Take away the ‘D’ and the Danger Zone ominously becomes the Anger Zone, and for good reason.  Anger and resentment are not only harmful for us mentally, but lead to some serious physical problems. 

Hoping to increase your blood pressure and heart rate?   Try getting really upset at the person who cut you off in traffic.  Planning to dump toxins into your system and actually make your blood boil?  Become outraged when your computer freezes.  Slam some doors and yell if you accidentally get the wrong order at Dunkin’ Donuts. And while you’re at it, raise your blood sugar and clog your arteries by being generally ticked off. 

In addition, recent research at the Cancer Treatment Centers of America showed that almost two-thirds of cancer patients identified resentment and inability to forgive as personal issues for them.

Flying off the handle only leads to a bad landing.  Blowing your top, fuse, or gasket hurts you, both body and soul.  Think before you give someone a piece of your mind.  Make sure you can do without it first.
 
When you see red, stop and use your head!

Gina J

Monday, September 24, 2012

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"If and When were planted, and Nothing grew." ~Proverb

The tough row to hoe is paved with good intentions.  It’s impossible to harvest when you haven’t planted.  How’s your crop yield looking?  Have you planted any of the following fruitless seeds of If and When?

If I made more money, I would_________ (fill in the blank).  If I had more time, I would_________ (repeat).  When I retire, I will_________ (insert ideal life plan here).  When I lose 20 pounds, I’ll _________ (ditto). 
Along with the Ifs and Whens, you may also be planting the garden-variety Buts.  I’d like to try_________ (ideal life plan again), but I’m too_________Old. Young. Busy. Tired. It stands to reason that all of this talk would make one a But Head.

Barren land is the result of planting nothing.  Choose carefully the seeds you sow through your thoughts and deeds to become the farmer who reaps a bountiful harvest.  The cream of the crop is yours for the taking.

Hi, hoe! Hi, hoe! It’s off to work we go!

Gina J

Monday, September 17, 2012

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“Sometimes I get the feeling the whole world is against me, but deep down I know that's not true. Some of the smaller countries are neutral.” –Robert Orben

Kickin’ a can?  Takin’ your ball and goin’ home?  Does your new theme song start with the line, “Nobody likes me, everybody hates me...”?

Before you go eat worms, dig this: the Rule of 20-40-60.  It may help you to take the focus off of yourself.  It goes like this: at age 20, you care what everyone thinks of you.  At age 40, you don’t care what anyone thinks of you.  And at age 60, you realize that no one was thinking of you to begin with! 

So hold off on throwing that pity party.  You’ll be the only one in attendance anyway. Laugh and the world will laugh with you.  Weep and you cry into the punch bowl alone.

What you give to others is exactly what you get back. Be the life of your party.

You’ve got the whole world in your hands!

Gina J

Monday, September 10, 2012

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"Rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life."
-J.K. Rowling

If your life is on the rocks or you’ve run into a stone wall, take heart.  They don’t call it solid as a rock for nothing.

Just as a whetstone is used to sharpen knives and blades, perhaps the stony ground of rock bottom is merely honing the tools you’ll need to rebuild your life from the ground up.  Perhaps it is polishing skills that are essential for you to acquire before you can construct and live comfortably in your forever home—your own skin.

So if you’ve been shaken down to your very foundation, you have been given the opportunity to redesign your life.  You are the master craftsman and sole proprietor of where all new construction begins—between your ears.

Nothing is etched in stone.  Maybe being between a rock and a hard place isn’t so hard after all.

Bottoms up,

Gina J

Monday, September 3, 2012

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“End of Construction. Thank you for your patience.”

-As seen on the tombstone of Ruth Graham (wife of Evangelist Billy Graham)

Wouldn’t it be great if all of life’s sticky situations came with really obvious signs, like the ones posted on our roadways?

Imagine that you’re about to make a colossal career mistake and accept an offer for the wrong job.  In the nick of time, you look up and see the Wrong Way sign.  Whew!  Crisis averted.   You’re on a blind date with someone who seems like your soul mate.  Thankfully, you spy the Dead End sign, saving you months of heartache.  Your teenage child is acting like a two year-old.  Both the Caution and Rough Road signs gave you plenty of warning and time to mentally prepare. 

Unfortunately, if you’re presently in a Fog Area, it can be difficult to find a sign.  Maybe it’s time to Stop at a Rest Area until the confusion clears.  When you take time to Reduce Speed and Yield to your intuition and inner voice, it may be the only sign you need.  If life is indeed a highway, this is One Way to successfully navigate it!

Don’t forget to buckle up.

Signing off,

Gina J      

Monday, August 27, 2012

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“And suddenly you know: It's time to start something new and trust the magic of beginnings.”-Meister Eckhart

Here’s a news flash for the newbie!  While nothing can replace the wisdom of experience, there are few things that are more freeing than being a novice.

There is a certain level of expectation that comes with success.   The bar is raised, never to be lowered again.  And if you make a mistake, there is a widespread belief among your peers that you somehow should have known better.  As Winston Churchill told us, "The price of greatness is responsibility.”


It is much less expensive to be a beginner.  Though you will certainly have a price to pay by enduring some humbling moments, others will also be more forgiving and willing to help you.

Don’t feel rooked by being a rookie.  Enjoy being a beginner—you’re in good company.  No one else has lived this particular day before either. We’re all just a little wet behind the ears. Kind of makes you want to just help and forgive all over the place, doesn’t it?

Fellow novices take notice: uncertainty is certain.  Embrace it.  Remember, they don’t call it Beginner’s Luck for nothing!

Feet first,

Gina J


Monday, June 18, 2012

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“In summer, the song sings itself.”
-William Carlos Williams

Hooray!  The first day of summer 2012 is June 20th! 

It’s the end of the spring and here she comes back.  Hi, hi, hi, hi there.  Them summer days, those summer days…Here’s to some Hot Fun in the Summertime with Sly and the Family Stone.

It’s summertime and the livin’ is easy. What timeless words from composer George Gershwin. Summer, summer, summertime…time to sit back and unwind. Take some good advice from DJ Jazzy Jeff and the Fresh Prince.  Why? 'Cause it's summer.  Summer time is here.  Yes, it's summer.  My time of year.  Sing along with War.

Mungo Jerry sang, in the summertime when the weather is high, you can chase right up and touch the sky.  Ahhh.  Summer sun, something's begun…

And so, though we gotta say goodbye for the summer (Bobby Vinton), put on your tee-shirts, cut-offs, and a pair of thongs.  We’ll be having fun all summer long with The Beach Boys.

… but uh-oh those summer nights!  Grease is the word.

See you in September (read as August); see you when the summer’s through!

Gina J

PS:  Closing lyrics by Association.

Monday, June 11, 2012

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“Only the hand that erases can write the true thing.”
-Meister Eckhart

Long live the eraser.

An eraser was first added to the top of a pencil in the late 1700s, but wax and even pieces of bread were previously used to remove unwanted lead or charcoal marks on paper.  As long as there have been people, there have been mistakes.

As the author of your life story and fellow human being, you may need to use a little Wite-Out once in a while.  But it’s worth it to live authentically.  Living half the truth is living a whole lie.

It’s not always easy to be honest with yourself. James Garfield said, “The truth will set you free, but first it will make you miserable.”  The option, however, is to spend your life being true to a lie. 

Nobody wants to follow The Worst Policy.  Don’t be afraid to do a bit of editing within the story of your life.  Start a new chapter.

Get real,

Gina J

Monday, June 4, 2012

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“Only your real friends will tell you when your face is dirty.”
-Sicilian Proverb

…Or if something is in your teeth.  Did you also know that genuine friendships are good for your health?

We know that our friends provide emotional support and boost our self-esteem, but people with meaningful social connections also have fewer cardiovascular and immune problems.  Recent research has shown, too, that women diagnosed with advanced stages of ovarian or breast cancer live twice as long if they have strong support groups.  They also experience less pain throughout their treatments.

It has been said that friends are the relatives you make for yourself.  With all the mental and physical benefits of friendship, it makes sense to nurture those ties like your life depended on it, because it just might.   It turns out that Phone-a-Friend really is a lifeline!

Time for a ‘family’ reunion!

Gina J

Monday, May 28, 2012

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"The heart is like a garden. It can grow compassion or fear, resentment or love.  What seeds will you plant there?"
-Buddha

For a seed to grow, it needs rich soil, sun, and rain.  A thought is grown in much the same way in the fertile planting ground of your mind.

What you sow will grow.  Reign over your mind’s garden, and sunny thoughts will be the harvest—optimists live longer and have less heart disease.  And probably more friends!

Charles Read once stated, “Sow an act, and you reap a habit. Sow a habit, and you reap a character. Sow a character, and you reap a destiny.” 

It’s time to cultivate your green thumb.  Weed out thoughts of defeat and despair.  Carefully choose what you plant, and watch what crops up in your life.

Everything’s comin’ up roses!

Gina J

Monday, May 21, 2012

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“You must do the thing which you think you cannot do.”
                                                -Eleanor Roosevelt

Take a moment and recall a time when you were filled with fright.  Maybe it was the first time that you were standing on the end of a diving board.  Perhaps it was the first time that you were sitting behind the wheel of a car.  Or was it the first time you stood before an audience with a microphone in your hand?

You had a choice then.  You could have turned from the diving board and gone back to safer ground, thereby fueling your fear.  Or you could have propelled your body forward and entered the water, then surfaced with an ear-to-ear grin, delighted in the knowledge that you just looked fear in the face and laughed. 

As Mark Twain so aptly stated, most of the things we worry about never happen.  And each time we face our fears, we gain strength and self-confidence. 

So what’s holding you back?  Could it be that whatever is blocking your path is your path?  Instead of waiting for the fear to pass, do it afraid.

Go ahead and take a chip off the old block. 

Have the last laugh,

Gina J

Monday, May 14, 2012


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“People say nothing is impossible, but I do nothing every day.”
                                                                   -Winnie the Pooh
Attention, all human beings!  Are you living up to your name sake and taking the time to just ‘be’?

If, instead, you are more of a human doing, it may be time to slow down.  Learning to do nothing actually takes practice.  It means giving yourself permission to be idle.  You can’t achieve inner peace if you feel too guilty to sit down and relax.

The laundry will still be dirty tomorrow.  The lawn can wait.  You can wash your car another day.  Will your legacy be that you died with the cleanest house?   

Put your feet up.  Turn your phone off.  Do a little bit of nothing and do it in good conscience.  Ignore your inner travel agent who’s just dying to send you on a guilt trip.   

Ready for a sing-along?  Do be do be do…

Be,

Gina J

Monday, May 7, 2012


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"Sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together."  - Marilyn Monroe

Holding on for dear life?  Maybe you’re clinging to something or someone that needs to make a graceful exit.  It’s time to relax your grip.  You can’t catch something better if your hands are already full.

Whether it’s a job, a relationship or even a stage of life, knowing when to let go and move on shows vision, poise, and belief in the future.  Think back on your own life for a moment.  How many things that seemed bad at the beginning turned out to be some of the best things that ever happened to you?

Seneca said, “Every new beginning comes from some other beginning's end.”  Both Semisonic and Green Day found this so noteworthy that they sang about it. 

Why wait for an emergency to use the exit doors?  There’s a new start waiting on the other side.

Closing time,

Gina J